Healthy Sexuality Seminar
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Healthy Sexuality
1. (10 min) God Given – it is good. It is not evil or dirty. God made boys with a penis and made girls with a vagina. They are made to go together every now and then. It is the devil and us that has defiled it with things like pornography and dodgy TV and books.
§ Sex is best when it is the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.
2. (10min) Your Mind + Truth God also gave you spirit and brain so you can control your sexual desires, rather then running round like a dog on heat J humping every good looking leg you come across
§ Romans 12:1-2 + Truth that sets you free, not more will power – diagram.
3. (10min) Sexuality – soft wax. Take care of how it is formed.
§ Do you want to teach yourself to be attracted to pictures on a screen or sexy mils and boons books, or your spouse?
4. (30min) Addictions – false comforters V’s the real comforter. (don’t separate yourself from the Holy Spirit when u need him the most!)
§ Masturbation
o I don’t know if masturbation is evil or a sin. BUT I do believe that it is the thought process that needs to be carefully checked. What mental habits are you getting into?
o Can you say no to yourself? You need to sometimes!
o Why do you do it?
o Anything that you use to change your mood or situation you are quickly becoming addicted too.
§ Do not use external things to change your mood or release stress. Teach your mind to be your friend.
§ What is the feeling that you are self medicating for?
- Lonely, sad, bored, depressed?
- The vulnerable God
o If you are addicted to orgasm, and you think that when you get married…
o If you don’t want to do something you need a good reason why not. Not just a good reason, but more reasons why not then why to. You also need to know how this behaviour is serving you. Why do you do it? What need is it fulfilling? Then you need a superior way of dealing with that situation. EG lonely, vulnerable God. See Saw.
o Make it your enemy, but first find out in which ways it is your friend.
§ Pornography
o When your sexuality is forming it is like a soft wax – take care!
§ Do you want your sexuality to be as such that you can only ever be turned on by a picture on a screen or in a mag?
o You don’t need to satisfy your curiosity! Learn to say no to your curiosity.
o How does porn teach you look at women/men?
§ You are teaching yourself to perve if you make a habit of it you will not be able to help yourself.
§ What gets your attention will get you.
o A desire can be in you that is not of you.
5. (10min) ‘Healthy sexual practices’
§ Limits in relationships – why do you want to push the limits? Why not save as much as you can for your wife? If you think this is the person you are going to marry then marry them, but save it for the wedding night.
§ Soft wax. If you ‘end up’ having sex accidentally in the heat of the moment, it is possible that one of you will end up resentful, and there is no way you want to be welding the idea of resent or shame and guilt to your sexuality. That may last for the rest of your life if it isn’t carefully addressed.
§ There is no such thing as safe sex. Do you want a STD? Are you ready to have a baby?
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(C) Joel Young 2009